A post went viral on Reddit after a woman shared her husband’s request that he not only continue to cook lunch for him every day, but also pack meals for his five co-workers once a week.
Redditor u/ThrowAITApackedlunch wrote about the unusual request on the Am I The As**ole subreddit in a post that got over 11,000 votes in the first 10 hours.
The Redditor explains that one way she shows affection is that she loves to cook for her husband and pack his lunch. However, she wakes up “pretty early” to get it done.
She writes that her husband’s colleagues, including a manager, discovered her good cooking and, without her knowledge, her husband offered to cook for them as well. She said her husband thought it might help him get a better position at work.
“When he came home and told me I was quite disappointed because although I love making lunch for him, it seemed like it was exhausting for his colleagues (people I don’t even know). Also, it wasn’t just for one person that he originally believed me but more like 5 OF HIS COLLEAGUES,” she wrote.
She said she tried it one morning, had to get up around 3:30 a.m. to do it and was almost late for her own job, which starts at 8 a.m
“It was not a pleasant experience,” she wrote.
There can be many reasons people choose to pack lunch for work. The reasons range from convenience to quality of food to saving money. According to a 2015 survey conducted by Visa, Americans spend an average of $2,746 a year on lunch, or $53 a week. The survey also found that men tend to spend 60 percent more than women and eat out more often.
The Redditor wrote that after a day’s packing of six lunches — “green curry, tom yum wings, shrimp fritters, and Thai fried rice” — her husband suggested it be a weekly event where she prepares a meal from a new kitchen every week.
“While this may seem ‘easy,’ I don’t want to do it anymore,” she wrote. “I like sharing the food I make, but I don’t want it to feel like a chore.”
She said her husband thinks she’s unreasonable because he thinks the move will help him get ahead at work and that she’s “just lazy”.
“I just find it presumptuous that he has to rely on the food I make for a promotion. I’m sure he can get a promotion on his own merit because he’s a very smart and accomplished man himself,” she wrote.
Commentators supported the woman and slammed her husband for his “outrageous” behavior.
“NTA, I want you to know that your husband’s behavior is completely outrageous. He’s amazingly unreasonable here. DO NOT give in, you are not his friggin’ personal chef,” wrote one commenter.
“NTA. Where are their wives?! Better yet, they’re grown men! They can make their own damn lunch!” another wrote.
The Redditor has engaged with some of the commenters by responding to their views on the situation.
One commenter asked what the Redditor’s husband did before they got married. The Redditor explained that he lives with his mother and when she’s not cooking, they would order takeout.
She explains in another answer that cooking can take an hour or two just for her husband.
Another commenter added that it’s not just a “[sh**ty]’ way of treating his spouse, the Redditor’s husband is also ‘a fool’, believing that doing so could help him climb the ladder at work.
It’s certainly not the first time a relationship faux pas has gone viral on the internet.
Another Reddit post went viral after a man claimed his girlfriend secretly brought her “leech” sister into her house. And a young couple’s first dance didn’t quite go as planned, but it did make for fond memories. On the other hand, a wedding speech kicked out the groom’s sister after she made a joke about her brother’s affair.
news week contacted u/ThrowAITApackedlunch for comment but did not respond in time for publication.